{"id":1243,"date":"2012-11-01T16:12:49","date_gmt":"2012-11-01T08:12:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.dimsumdolly.com\/?p=1243"},"modified":"2012-11-02T10:53:34","modified_gmt":"2012-11-02T02:53:34","slug":"what_if_and_if_only","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.dimsumdolly.net\/?p=1243","title":{"rendered":"What If, If Only, Should Have, Could Have, Would Have"},"content":{"rendered":"

I dislike the\u00a0five pairs of words that are in the title of this blog post. Why?<\/p>\n

“What if” is often used by people\u00a0with some kind of\u00a0anxiety, as if there is some impending doom. An element of pessimism is usually attached to the use of it. Don’t like that.<\/p>\n

“If only”, “should have”, “could have” and “would have”\u00a0ring of regret,\u00a0lost chances, missed opportunities, and depression. Rumination is a waste of time and energy. Stop it. Concentrate on the present instead.<\/p>\n

Food for thought this Thursday.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I dislike the\u00a0five pairs of words that are in the title of this blog post. Why? “What if” is often used by people\u00a0with some kind of\u00a0anxiety, as if there is some impending doom. An element of pessimism is usually attached … Continue reading →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[8],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1243","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-musings-mullings"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dimsumdolly.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1243","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dimsumdolly.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dimsumdolly.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dimsumdolly.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dimsumdolly.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1243"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/www.dimsumdolly.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1243\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1962,"href":"https:\/\/www.dimsumdolly.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1243\/revisions\/1962"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dimsumdolly.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1243"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dimsumdolly.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1243"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dimsumdolly.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1243"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}