{"id":1401,"date":"2011-11-09T11:26:40","date_gmt":"2011-11-09T11:26:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.dimsumdolly.com\/?p=1401"},"modified":"2011-11-09T11:26:40","modified_gmt":"2011-11-09T11:26:40","slug":"i_was_attempting_to_practise","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.dimsumdolly.net\/?p=1401","title":{"rendered":"Lazy to Make Friends"},"content":{"rendered":"

I was attempting to practise my Chinese writing skills in the previous entry – it was probably a rather crappy attempt. In any case, the entry was inspired by a quote from episode 8 of the Taiwanese drama In Time With You<\/a><\/em> and it basically says that one becomes lazier when it comes to socialising and making friends as one gets older. And the reason being that you become lazy in repeating your life story over and over again. You don’t want to tell for the umpteenth time where you’re from, where you work, what you do, where you live etc. It’s a tiring but unavoidable process when meeting new people.
\nIt’s true – you do get lazy when you reach a certain age. Can’t do the late night-outs all that often anymore with all that socialising. Your body protests when you stay up late for parties, which are dwindling in numbers anyway. In your 30s, you’re more likely going to get invited to your friends’ children’s parties. In any case, I’ve never been a party animal. I have always been somewhat of a nerd. I like to read and write – both solitary activities. I’m no social butterfly either. I don’t go to networking events because I don’t enjoy making small talk and schmoozing with a bunch of strangers and the few I’ve gone to I’ve always found phony and pretentious. Clearly not my thing.
\nI don’t purposely go out of my way to socialise. I only go to events and activities I know I’ll enjoy. If I happen to meet people whose company I enjoy and can get along with through these activities, it’s a bonus. Many people say to me, ‘But I thought you were very extroverted and outgoing since you’re so outdoorsy.” I say that’s a common misconception – being outdoorsy doesn’t equate to being extroverted nor vice versa. You CAN be one without being the other. I would classify myself as an introvert, just not an extreme one. I’m definitely not the life of a party and in a big group of people I fade into the crowd to be an onlooker and bystander. That’s my comfort zone.
\nSo how? Like that how to get to know people and meet someone? OK, the truth is, I’m scared. Dating IS scary – there is the fear of rejection, of being judged and of getting hurt. Why must dating be so difficult???<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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