It is highly probable that one of the greatest regrets of my life is that I never got to be a mother. The biological clock is ticking and looking at the (dismal) record of my love(less) life, it’s a reality that looms ever larger as the days go by. I have had good friends who have suggested the following:<\/p>\n
1. Adoption<\/p>\n
This is a definitely a no for me as adoption is a\u00a0difficult process in Singapore, especially for a single woman.<\/p>\n
2. Single mother<\/p>\n
Become a single mother by either getting myself pregnant through a sperm donor or a hook-up. Erm, no. Not that desperate to the point of having a random man father a child. <\/p>\n
3. Freeze ovaries<\/p>\n
Just in case I meet someone in future and want a child, at least my frozen eggs will be younger and of a better quality. Too expensive and too painful. So, no.<\/p>\n
Well, all those options are definitely not for me. The bottom line is that I don’t want to be a single mother out of choice, though I do\u00a0salute\u00a0women who choose to do so. Bringing up a child is difficult enough an undertaking with two people, not to mention one. I don’t think I have the ability to care for a child on my own.<\/p>\n
I guess I could “console” myself by telling myself:<\/p>\n
1. Not bringing another human being into this world is an environmentally friendly thing to do.<\/p>\n
2. I can probably retire earlier without a child. Hopefully. (Retiring might not be a possibility with the high cost of living!)<\/p>\n
3. I still have family and friends for companions in old age.<\/p>\n
I also feel rather bad that I have “deprived” my parents of a chance of grand-parenthood. I think they would make wonderful, doting\u00a0grandparents. Unfortunately,\u00a0no grandchild(ren) has materialised.<\/p>\n
In Chinese, there is a saying, \u53ef\u6b32\u4e0d\u53ef\u6c42, meaning to say you may desire something, but you can’t force it to happen. Guess\u00a0motherhood is\u00a0just one of those things in life.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" It is highly probable that one of the greatest regrets of my life is that I never got to be a mother. The biological clock is ticking and looking at the (dismal) record of my love(less) life, it’s a reality … Continue reading